NEGATIVITY

By Psychic-Magic Contributor Renji

Negativity is a major challenge, both in ourselves and those around us. It can come from deep-seated beliefs in our unconscious that, like a computer virus, activate when someone “pushes our buttons”. It can come from the fear that we cannot move beyond a certain point, so we give up trying. Negativity can come from beliefs and thoughts that trap us in our comfort zone and keep us from moving forward—even though we aren’t truly comfortable.

Our deep-seated beliefs come from words and phrases we’ve taken in throughout our life. We don’t think about them, and may not even realize they’re there, but they will sabotage us whenever they can. Someone telling us “You’re so dumb” at age five lingers in the unconscious and, at some level, we believe (for example) we are not smart enough to get into college.

Negativity keeps us in a holding pattern, like a plane circling an airport. We don’t do anything but circle through our list of beliefs and negative thoughts. We feel stagnant, stifled and worthless. Is it any wonder people who work in confining little cubicles call the work world “the rat race” and feel as if they’re running in a maze?

Sometimes, by focusing on what holds us back, we can use our will to forge ahead. Other times, that’s more difficult and we actually sabotage ourselves. The little voice inside that says, “I’m dumb” or “I’m a loser” restrains us, ruins relationships, keeps us from satisfying jobs, and makes us feel less than we are. Affirmations such as “I’m smart”, “I’m intelligent” or “I’m a winner” may help, but that may not be enough if your negativity stems from an unconscious belief. Your unconscious belief that you are unworthy sabotages your life, and if it doesn’t, in unconscious ways you may actually sabotage yourself because, on a deep level, you don’t feel worthy.

A common phrase we use around Psychic-Magic is “where attention goes, energy flows.” It’s the Law of Attraction. Your dominant beliefs attract what you believe. We do what makes us comfortable. We hang out with the people who make us comfortable, which is why like attracts like. Rich people hang out with rich people. Cliques. By putting ourselves in an uncomfortable situation, like hanging out with people not like ourselves, we challenge ourselves to be more, do more and have more. Do you want to be like the piano that, when someone in the next room plays a chord, you resonate with that same chord?

In order to change, we have to allow ourselves to be uncomfortable and then actually get comfortable with being uncomfortable. If we can face our fears, negative thoughts and counter-productive behavior and expand our consciousness, we can attract different outcomes, and in this way, we can continue to grow.